Why do people feel the way they do? Why do some things always go wrong? Why do some things get stuck? Why do we make the same mistakes over and over again? “Swamiji Paramahamsa Nithyananda, an Indian enlightened master, gives us an inspiring answer to our questions…
A root thought pattern
When we are children, the world seems perfect. There is no difference between a child’s world and the world at large. Until one day something goes wrong and everything seems to fall apart. The world seems on the verge of collapse. Perhaps the child’s older brother is overpowering him and shouting at him, ripping the ice cream out of his hands.
The child is small, frightened and feels powerless. They form ideas about themselves and the world in these vulnerable moments. Unfortunately, these ideas or cognitions live with them for the rest of their lives. Little do they know that these ideas are at the root of everything that goes wrong in their lives as children, teenagers, adults, old people and right up to their last breath.
Everyone has been a child. Everyone has been shaken to the core at some point in their lives. It happens to everyone, but the painful memory is suppressed somewhere in the archives of the mind and people forget what shook their existence.
This limiting cognition that everyone gives themselves in their moments of powerlessness is called a root thought pattern, and it’s the common thread running through everyone’s life. We may or may not be aware of it, but it is nevertheless present, like an undercurrent in all our actions and thoughts, and it poisons our lives.
Living in wholeness
Everything in the cosmos resonates innately with wholeness. Wholeness is our innate nature; we are never comfortable with our own incompleteness. Incompleteness drives us to repeat the same mistakes over and over again.
The more you run away, the more you are haunted by incompleteness through life and lifetimes. The only way to be free is to confront incompleteness directly and identify the source, which is rooted in inadequate knowledge of a situation that occurred in your life, and then end it.
“Reliving your past, with a new understanding, deciding not to repeat the mistakes, incompleteness and patterns of the past in the future, is wholeness.” Paramahamsa Nithyananda proposed a simple and powerful technique:
The first step
Remember the first incident in your life that made you feel deeply unbalanced, that is to say, that made you feel powerless, cornered, broken. It may have been at the age of three, when your mother made you sit on the dining table so that you wouldn’t play. Or it could be a simple incident. It may be the first time you remember feeling helpless and powerless in your life. Find the first incident you can remember where you felt helpless.
Now relive the incident as if it were happening right now. Visualise being back at this very moment, surrounded by the same people. How do you feel? Relive the incident. Review all these emotions and thoughts.
When you relive the incident, see what ideas you have, see what you think of yourself, what you think of life and of others. How you project yourself onto others…
Make a conscious resolution with integrity, authenticity and responsibility and make this declaration. “I commit to wholeness for myself and for life…”
Wholeness with yourself involves giving yourself the attention you need. This heals even physical pain, because pain is simply a manifestation of the inability to sit comfortably with oneself.
When there is a disturbance, the source invariably comes from within us. Whether it is any kind of obstacle, this technique of wholeness within oneself will be the path to enriching one’s life and cleansing the body of all negativity in its various forms.
Wholeness does not mean accepting everything that happens in life. Wholeness is not blind acceptance. Wholeness simply means not resisting the flow of life.
Wholeness is a space or state of being where no negative event, emotion, thought pattern or behaviour from the past can hold sway over us in the present or the future.
Airs de Paris
In the World